Updated: Aug 12, 2018
by Guest Author Larry Winget...
Zman's Note: Best selling author and personal development master, Larry Winget originally wrote the following piece at the request of the Huffington Post, but for reasons unknown to Larry, with no explanation, they never ran the article. It is in my personal opinion that this brilliance crafted by the brash and outspoken Mr. Winget was just way too honest and politically incorrect for the purveyors of social justice at Huffington. So, without further adieu, I give you the truth. ~ Tommy Z
Face it, things are a mess. I bet you will find it hard to argue with that statement. Our government is a mess: it’s too big, it costs too much, and for the most part, it’s ineffective. You can top that off with the fact that people have completely lost confidence in it and the politicians who run it. Recent polling says that 68 percent of people believe we are headed in the wrong direction.
It’s not just government; businesses are a mess, too. Many have forgotten that businesses exist to fill a need, solve a problem, serve their customers well, and be profit- able while doing it. A strong work ethic in employees has become a thing of the past. Too many leaders confuse leadership with popularity.
Families are no exception, either. Too many parents are indulgent, overprotective, and don’t communicate or teach morals, ethics, or values. They are raising narcissistic brats who have no respect for others or for themselves. And while the economy is a mess in our country, it’s simply a reflection of the disastrous way we handle our own money as individuals and in our families. People spend money they don’t have buying things they don’t need to impress people they don’t like.
Individuals blame instead of taking responsibility. They rationalize their behavior. They are personally offended by almost everything even when it has nothing to do with them. They demand things, believing they are entitled to them instead of earning them. We even have a huge segment of society that has moved back in with their parents instead of sucking it up and figuring out how to make it on their own. They put more thought and more money into their grande half-caf Mochachino Frappuccino Crapacino than they do their savings accounts. They distract themselves with social media instead of working. I could go on and on and on, and every one of you reading this could add 50 more statements that would be true about what a mess people have become.
Education might be the area where it is the worst. College campuses are now full of safe zones where grown men and women can run and hide to protect themselves from the hurtful words of others. And yes, 18 years old is grown. We have 18-year-old men and women dying while defending our country so I consider 18-year-olds grown. Colleges have become bastions of uber-liberal ideas that charge exorbitant amounts of money to nurture oversensitivity instead of challenging thinking and encouraging growth.
To be very, very clear: I am not saying that nothing is going right. I am not ignoring or discounting all of the good in the world. I see it. I acknowledge it. I applaud it. But we don’t fix our problems by only focusing on what is going right, we have to focus on what is wrong, why it went wrong and what we can do to fix it.
What went wrong that got us in the mess we are in, is the collapse of core values. Values like honesty, integrity, respect, work ethic, adding value and self-sufficiency.
The loss of these core values is the cause of every one of the problems I have outlined. Every person needs to do a self-assessment on how they live, parent, interact with their employees, employers, co-workers and customers as well as the way they vote. When we get clarity around what is important and live that way in every area of both our lives, we can turn this mess around.
An excerpt from What’s Wrong With Damn Near Everything: How The Collapse Of Core Values Is Destroying Us and How To Fix It by Larry Winget. Larry Winget is a six-time New York Times/Wall Street Journal bestselling author of books such as Shut Up, Stop Whining and Get A Life and You’re Broke Because You Want To Be and Grow A Pair. He is a member of the Speaker Hall Of Fame, has starred in his own television series and appeared in national television commercials. Larry is a regular contributor on many tv news shows on the topics of money, success, business and parenting. Find out more at www.larrywinget.com.